3531-95478-1 — BERLADYN, Marg
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I have not read this since I had written it while listening to the audio files back in 2016. Written while I was staying in my cousin Mark Berladyn's house. It is a direct response (with crude time notations) to the audio / video records of Police Testimonials provided for this court case.
Marg Berladyn Court Response
14. Since I was 14 years old, but in earnest I worked hard there, harder than most people would off and on since 17 or 18. I’d get laughed at. Not only did I do things like shovel a half a load dump truck load of dirt by hand, by 21 or 22 I completely renovated the basement, building a basement suite so my parents could have a revenue stream, my broth er wanted to build a party house, I tricked him as he always tricked me. That was an incredible amount of work and it was done after working like a dog 45 to 54 hours per week. I’m not kidding, my brothers laughed at me when parents said I would get for it.
16. 2012 I believe. Jim hated the fact that I renovated upstairs he never wanted me working there. He’d make nasty comments and tell me to renovate downstairs. My sister was always encouraging me to spend my money and renovate. I wished she was gone. We had a flood, there is mold there, there was leaking water pipes, leaking sewage from moms bathroom, my bathroom walls were rotted, it was freezing cold with no subfloor and there were things I wanted to fix from the renovation 20 years earlier. I felt guilty about somethings that were wrong. There was a dead rat and rat feces in my ceiling from sister’s cats, I knew it was there. The cupboards were terrible junk, imagine 40 year old ikea, or the equivalent. The one spare room that my mother always stuffed with junk so I couldn’t use it, was full of old cat urine and feces from my sister’s cats. No insulation as it’s the only room not originally renovated 20 years ago. My siblings would leave the front door open losing all my heat and causing lots of disturbing noise. My sisters kids would take my belongings upstairs and or walk into my bedroom. I couldn’t date anylonger. My brother kept pressuring mother to get a new furnace even though that was actually a dumb move, any true Furnace guy will tell you that. I always wanted to redo the basement, as I can get materials, left overs and that kind of thing with permission. I was cold, bitter I spent so much money upstairs and not for myself, and I wanted to install a heater, fix the mold issue. Move was approving, but less approving as she only seemed to care about herself and getting things in her space. A clean gut is ALWAYS best, and that’s what happened. Once it was open, I could redo everything properly between jobs and after work. My mother would go around with me looking at flooring, carpet, cabinets, all that stuff. I don’t know how, but I thought I could manage it financially even though I was in roughly $20,000 debt. It was just a combination in 2013 of health, attempting to work as a contractor, home/family distractions that lead to a complete crash by the end of the Summer of 2013. I’m doing that work and they are all telling me, do this, do that. They are all watching, it was fine but at the same time unsettling inside.
19. It was a finished that I built and paid for 20 years earlier. It had problems after floods, breaking cabinets open for easier access to a plumbing clean out. There was access, just not enough room for the plumber’s pressure pipe washer. What they are saying is sick.
21. My mother is lying. My brother was in a Cold War with me, he’s always been trying to make sure that it’s rent so that “it’s fair”. Yes, that’s his mentality. He didn’t care if they lost the house, but no one was getting more than Jim. It bothers him, cause he has to get his. My mother would promise, “just give me the check, I will look after you, you are going to get, you know what will happen if they find out.” The house was always a deck of cards right up until my father passed away. Any instability and it was going to be gone. I don’t know how I can communicate that, but that’s exactly how it was.
23. Who has been coercing her? Jim? When my father died Jim tried to throw me out, telling me to “pack all my shit and get out!” He was on my $1200 computer I placed upstairs, on my internet connection convincing mom to buy near him. She came running to me crying, “I know I owe you, but I need every penny for myself”. So much happened then, having Jim “win” that destroyed me inside. He had no right to control those finances or those outcomes. This is why my father said to me what he did just before he passed away, Jim did it to him too. His own father, my father lived alone feeling screwed. In fact, so did my grandmother in the old age home. I would know, I was her favourite. She’d complain to me.
25. My mother knows exactly what “set me off”. She herself RAN from it and left the house for three months. She didn’t want to deal with it. I didn’t have the luxury as I had to work, in bed by 8:30 / 9pm and up at 4 / 4:30am. I had to work hard and I couldn’t miss. I used to literally want to vomit my insides, but I had to keep going physically.
27. Yes, my sister and her husband were telling me where I could go in the house. They were telling me what my rights were. They were taking it over and planning renovations. They’d fight upstairs late at night, the dog would be downstairs shaking and now there was FIVE cats in the house. Urinating and defecating. I was going out of my mind because at that time, I was just keeping balance, trying to live happy after years of misery and I wanted to pay down excruciating debt incurred from all the previous family problems. I was paying nearly $500 a month in interest and debt insurance. I would cry when I thought about it. I couldn’t “reset” my finances by wrapping into a mortgage and I’d work six days a week, I was too proud and/or embarrassed to see the bank and ask them what to do. I’d want to, but when I had a free day, I was tired.
28. My brother in law was careless. Like a teenager the neighbours said, leaving empties all over the house, cigarette butts on the driveway. My sister wanted to “use” him to renovate, make a claim on the house like I had and then discard him. He was too stupid to understand that.
30. Yes, gone to Montana for three months, hiding from the house. She never did that before.
33. Yes, Jim upset me for very good reason. Jim laughed that my parents would lose that house for years and years. He weaseled in, influencing my mother to make sure he gets his 25%. I am not kidding, he was and is that sick. He doesn’t care if he kills me, he wants what I earned and paid for in so many ways. My sister used to call him a sicko, but now they have mutual interest. Wiping me out of the picture.
36. Of course, I was always told. My dad wanted that too. This has been told to me since I was 22 or so. My siblings don’t want me to get anything.
39. Why is she omitting the fact that she came running to me crying, I know I owe you, but I need every penny. I took my mother to an apartment. I went from being able to buy a house, to a townhouse to an apartment. I was going to buy the apartment but I was not in a good mental state, I took my mother and her friend Bernice. It was tiny, loud and it faced the Funeral Home we had my father at just months before. My mothers exact words “Oh, this is good enough for you”. Can you imagine that? I still cry over my father now and I would have had to stare at his Funeral Home were we just had his Services. That was good enough for me, the one who stopped her from losing her house and everything in it as my brother Jim always laughed would happen.
40. Actually, this is and isn’t true. She had Cancer, the others walked all over me and I was resentful because I vision I had in a dream came true. I wish I wrote what I needed to. I hated her for a time, I would drive home from work wishing she would die. The dynamics were killing me inside, my siblings knocking me out of the nest for greed. In my vision/nightmare which I had in my twenties, I died after spending all that energy and time repairing the nest for a sick mother. The others never cared, they just came back in the end to take. And they threw me out where I laid on the ground looking up at the sky and I died. So, perhaps that the justified paranoia.
43. Yes, I eventually nursed myself through buying LEGO. That was the same thing that helped me as a child with my family issues. I bought LEGO and I considered it an investment. It retained it’s value. I lost lots on shipping and duty, but I was able to buy all the things I wanted and couldn’t have when I was a kid. Mostly the technical LEGO, the Educational stuff. Gears, motors, pneumatics, LEGO Computers, Sensors, etc. I felt stupid when people would find out, but it really helped me as you have no idea what 2005 was like.
44. By late 2006 I was starting to work on the house again and this upset Jim. He’d get mad and try to interfere. The guy has and had his own house. He refused to help. My father’s rule was that if you leave you do not come back. I can’t tell you how much of a Scumbag he is for this.
46. That’s not true. I was never upset about people parking on the driveway. However, Jim parking on the street was much more acceptable and much less “in my face” with his arrogance.
48. Yes, Jim came for free meals. He used to brag to everyone about them. He even was eating food that I was buying myself and bringing home for mom to cook. She’d lie to me, telling me I ate it all. So I started watching because I knew how many pieces of steak, sausage etc. that I brought home. She’d lie right to my face, then I noticed Jim would cover over and actually be fed my food. She even cooked better those nights.
50. Yes, I tried taking my $1200 computer and my internet connection back from her. Jim was telling me that if I don’t like it move, get out. I’m paying her, doing all the work of living with her, I’m putting money in and he’s setting the rules. When he buys something, he makes sure she pays him right to the penny. It’s sick. He called me an “Indian Giver” and said I couldn’t have my computer back.
53. This is the period from late 2008 to roughly 2010, when there was all those problems with my sister and her husband.
55. Yes, it bothered her, it’s embarrassing for me and she actually thought it was so funny she’d phone her friends laughing about it. She would giggle, you should see him act like this.
57. 2011? Sick in the hospital? She is confused and her words are impressed upon her. Those are Jim Berladyn’s words. In 2006, when she had cancer, this is bad, but it was killing me inside. When I visited her, I would beg her to do something. She looked at me like she knew. I never in my life asked her to sign papers. I did almost beg her to do something, plead desperately would be a better word.
59. This is a lie. Although I do feel like I have literally paid for that entire house in depression, near suicides, work, sweat, blood, tears, money and psychological damage. I never said that. When she was making up her will she asked me what I thought about giving the other something, I said I thought she should. It was more of a nice gesture though because I honestly feel that Jim should be screwed completely for what he’s done to me. I can show you emails to the doctor, my figures perhaps are too low. I wanted more out of life. They prevented it.
60. I don’t know what she’s talking about, unless she’s coerced by them.
62. She states I am going to get? She used to tell me that my father promised her such and such a life so she deserves it. She expected to have it. I expected to have a home of my own, peace and sanity. She’s decided not to care out of coercion. My grandmother resented my mother while she was in her old age home. Sometimes I think threw the walker, she was “fed up” and “wanted to die” she’d tell me. “Your mother”. My dad felt the same way. Do I deserve any of this? My Counsellor stated I get to be proud of the fact I did the right thing. He’s out to lunch, I can’t be proud if I am in misery and don’t have what I need to thrive. That’s ridiculous.
64. She’s talking ridiculously.
66. I am screaming at that as I hide downstairs, just trying to grow stronger day by day so that when the time comes I have what I need to leave?
67. Episode? PLEASE CHARGE HER WITH FRAUD! ABUSE. NEGLECT. EXTORTION. PLEASE. They almost KILLED ME. My mother was giggling with my brother the last time I had seen her in mid October. They had everything set to go. I knew instinctively that my sisters text was abnormal. She doesn’t give me that courtesy, something was up. I simply instructed her to never contact me again and I told her she was the lowest of the low via text. I then went out for the night inside of giving out Halloween candy like I used to. When I returned there it was, the Eviction Notice placed on a door I have paid for, in a house I am told is part mine in the least and it’s a house that wouldn’t be there if I didn’t go through all this abuse for all of these years. My life has already been destroyed for it.
70. My sister doesn’t respect me, or any of the actual work and money I have contributed. I don’t give out Halloween candy anymore and I feel bad about that. My sister stated many times she didn’t care about this house and then she runs back, trying to force me out by taking it over, destroys my health and finances, then comes to give out Halloween Candy. I am sorry, but I can’t help but feel that way. My whole family is and has been consuming me for their gain and my mother has gone back on her word.
72. See, the rest of her children are coercing her. Do you actually believe this is right? They ran from a sinking ship laughing, they bought their own homes. Then my sister steals $40,000 and loses hers. Do you think it’s right that she comes running back and destroys my life for gain? How about the rest of them, do you think that’s right that they rub their hands? Their greed has nearly killed me and I don’t want to tell you, but it likely will if the Courts don’t understand me. I likely can’t even talk on the stand. Even the head of Psychiatry at the Royal Columbian stated the law does not always do the right thing. It is wrong to force me out of there. I know land laws are strict.
74. They were Giggling, that is intent to harm. I was almost killed from stress. There are witnesses. I have no lost over $50,000 after nearly committing suicide two years earlier. My mother was guided, likely by my oldest brother and even stated to the RTB that they weren’t seeking their $28,000 in unpaid rent “yet”.
77. They were Giggling. I know them, they thought it was funny. The Port Moody Police have this information. They calling it “non-sensical”. That’s hogwash, they were emailed almost daily for the from November 1st to November 21st. I made sure that I CC’ed copies to friends.
78. They were Giggling.
79. This has been going on for years and it’s destroyed my health. My mother wanted and needed my help, my siblings wanted to take my contributions. They are thieves who have stolen from my all my life. The only reason my mother has that house is because of me. She admitted that to a Psychologist and even her friend stated that.
82. Safety. She’s prompted to state this by Jim and Lisa. We both avoid each other, more so I avoiding her. The word to use is uncomfortable. I try hard not to be seen by any of them.
86. So she thinks it’s completely fine to destroy her sons life. Use him and turf him. Well it fits, she did that to her husband and her own mother.
89. My oldest brother would set that up intentionally creating a problem. He’d play my mother. Convince her that she wanted those branches cut because he is a nice son looking after his mother. When I would plead and beg my mother in tears feeling sick, he would laugh uncontrollably in the back yard. Even my brother Mike was unsettled with a startled look on his face while he watched Jim. It’s sick, I think even Mike had enough sense to see that.
91. Yes, my sister is completely disrespecting me and using her husband for gain. I am the one who never left, the one who saved the house. My life, my work, my money, my blood, my tears, I couldn’t even tell you what it’s cost me. EVERYTHING. They all didn’t care. They stated it for years, now they come back in the end and try to throw me out after I nearly commit suicide? Can you please CHARGE THEM? PLEASE. Whether you see it or not, it is murder.
100. She’s prompted to say this. That’s how they work in unison. Trust me. My mother is not scared of me. When I was released from the hospital, I was on the phone in the garage. My mother came into the garage to bring the cat back. She was in there for at least ten minutes. I didn’t say anything because I am scared to have any words spread incorrectly in gossip. She had NO fear. None. It was emotionally neutral for each of us. In fact, I even sensed a helplessness on her part. She’s trapped and doesn’t know what to do. That’s my mother, I know her. I’ve lived with her for 40 years.
104. That was between 2008 and 2010 when my sister was staying here with her husband dictating where I can go. What the rules are. What I pay to eat, etc. That’s long over with and settled down when I at least had her agreeing it was her house and my house. This is somewhat natural, I have been under threat for so many years.
110. Yes, I once grabbed her wrist in frustration. Can I at least ask you, what you actually think the contributing factors were to this. Do you really I am alone in this? I mean, there has to be a reason? Like perhaps I Psychologically fear for my life? That I am being abused myself?
114. Again, 2008 to 2010 or so. She really doesn’t care about anyone but herself. We are arguing about my future and my sanity. As to whether my family has taken my life or not. Jim thinks it’s funny and it’s a game to win, Lisa is likely desperate for money, and Mike just sits in the background hoping to collect, expending as little effort as possible.
122. See, that was years ago and it happened only once. That’s why she doesn’t remember.
125. Yes, just as my siblings make me feel uncomfortable. It goes around in a circle. How can this exclusively be my fault?
127. Never separate Suites. Mother would never allow my space to be sealed off. She couldn’t go through my things or stack stuff in my space otherwise. In 2012, it was sealed off to keep my siblings out as well as the other problems already explained.
138. Office, which I need for work.
142. No, they locked the door I had paid for and installed because this was all planned. It was funny.
144. I paid $240 a month for years and years, just so she could watch her soap operas. I never watched TV and I resented it when money was tight. I wouldn’t cut the cable once I was paying for it, otherwise Jim would say I never paid it. “Didn’t happen”, that’s the kind of things he does. She used to use my phone too when mom and dad couldn’t afford the bill. I cut the Cable in August, because they were literally like vultures eating a kill. I was so sick I quit my job and my finances flew out of control into a spiral. If it didn’t cost me more to pay the cable, it didn’t cost her more to have me there recovering financially as opposed to leaving. My bill became $60 as opposed to $150. They are killing me, what I am suppose to do?
147. No I do not have access to that room. I have stuff in there, I am locked out. Futhermore, Shaw stole expensive parts, that just added to my frustration.
149. She’s lying. I paid for that door knob. When I became suicidal I turned the lock around so that investigators could not get into her space. It is a lock where you can change keys without a locksmith. I was in such a poor mental state I messed up and no keys work for that door. I told her that, she never changed that lock. She didn’t need to. I am locked out of the house with doors and walls I paid for and installed.
151. Made her feel safer as they steal the property I have upstairs?
152. She’s lying. She can get into the basement from the door at the bottom of the stairs. I can’t go upstairs that way because it’s locked from her side.
153. Yes, I have not been in the best mental state. I almost died, I am completely stressed out. I left the heater on. I have a file that describes every circuit as I was wanting to fix things and make them to code. That one receptacle may be fed from upstairs as original along with the LED lights and that actually brings it within code.
161. Yes, basically she up and I am down.
167. She’s scared I am going to take back what I bought and installed? All new data cable throughout the house, new upgraded TV Cable, plus the house has been completely re-piped all paid for by me.
171. That’s right, I never left home. She clutched on to me. At times Jim would convince her to abandon me when she didn’t need me, but as soon as she felt threatened, she clutched. She knew I wouldn’t leave her, abandon her.
173. Yeah, I just turned 40 and my mother has destroyed my finances, my employability, my health and I am now homeless as of this court date.
182. That’s a lie. Where does this come from? A few times she fed me. I have always worked! Always! Since I was 14 years old! It was 2010 was the first real time that I had time off in my life. I followed my doctors instructions. She “fed” me when I was going shopping and buying the food! Years later, she “fed” me when I was paying $200 per month as a food contribution and Lisa and Colin were cooking. Then they wanted more money from me. That was for dinners only.
190. My grandmother NEVER lived downstairs. It was too COLD. Those two fought and my grandmother resented my mother for taking her money for that house. Eventually my grandmother was thrown into an old age home where she complained of my mother and constantly told me that she just wanted to die. You’re mother she would say. Sometimes I think she threw her walker in frustration, breaking her pelvis. I know my grandmother. She clutched my hand as she asked me to “go with her” as she lay there dying.
193. Does she have her story right? I have been down there since 1990. In 1997, I paid $2400 to rebuild that bedroom. It was fully of wood bugs, no insulation, wood paneling. My oldest brother caused a scene about that too. He couldn’t handle that I was staying there, yet he happily knocked me off course in buying my own place.
195. That’s right.
197. Why is she stalling?
199. March 22nd, 2005 is when my father passed away, it destroyed me inside. I went day and night for him. I even chased the priest away because he wasn’t dying, even though I knew sub-consciously that he was. My Uncle Peter was the one I seen the most. He was there almost as much as I was.
202. My grandmother was thrown in an old age home around 1998, 1999 or so. She gave me all of her furniture. In 2006, I threw it out and my brother gave me hell. When I told him it was mine, I asked him if he wanted it. He stopped talking. I only bought new furniture because a woman told me I was depressed and that I should. I always wanted to do that with a wife, a life long partner, or once I was fully established in my own long term, life long home. I gave up and bought what you see, which I only wanted to do once
I was living in that entire suite, TV, computer, everything since 1999 or so. My sister used to keep her computer in that living room until 1996. Roughly 1997 I put a desk in there and my oldest brother Jim would come over after work and use my computer for hours on end. I was so stupid, he’d even put me down with negative comments while he used me for my computer. I was just happy to be around him, I am an idiot. No different than when I’d run up to him in Grade One and he’d kick me away from the monkey bars.
205. The same bedroom I have lived in for 26 years, the same bedroom I spend $2400 and lot of work rebuilding to make it liveable. Actually when I did that my brother Mike was complaining it’s “not fair” that I was getting a new room. I offered to do his and he said no. I can’t win with these people.
212. Actually, my mother never wanted to give anything up. She’d stuff everywhere, even pushing my father out. She laid claim to everything in that house. I understand she’s on title, but she wanted everyone to help her with no concern to them. I truly only had a bedroom as far as privacy, but I was paying $650, the cable at $240, I was working on the house maintaining it, and I was even spending money. One year things were so tight there I wouldn’t even turn on the heat. It was so cold I could barely type. My mother needed me, believe me and she clutched.
216. My oldest brother screamed parents don’t charge their kids rent and laughed in her face when he got out. He laughed he wouldn’t help at the same time, he scoff that they were going to lose that house. Then he’d brag about free meals. The second he realized I was going to get, he turned it into a game to “win”. I kid you not.
My brother Mike would do cocaine in his temporary garage, turned the house into a wrecking yard running compressors past midnight. He’d block me from working on the house and he’d continually state he didn’t give a @#$^ about mom and dad. He paid “rent!”. He got more for his money than I ever did.
My sister wouldn’t pay and didn’t have to. She was in “school”. She’d steal food from work occasionally. Then claim she was paying (with someone else’s money).
219. Yes, get the actual times. I have asked my bank for microfilm from the account that closed for bankruptcy in September 2013. I know what I paid, I wrote the cheques, I even know the increases and why each one happened.
223. She’s lying. If it was $425, that was when Mike still lived there. As soon as he left it went to $500. Then I offered a onetime payment of $550 to cover a onetime charge of $50 for BC Hydro (under the NDP). Then I was told that’s what I pay now. $550, I felt stupid for caring. I then took over the cable at this point as they couldn’t afford the bills, it was getting cut and mom without TV.. the end of the world. My parents even used my telephone for a period when their phones were cut off.
From there, in 1998, it went to $650 where she’s claiming I only had a bedroom. Jim was telling her to use me. She’d tell me, I’ll look after you, just give me the cheque demanding it. You’re going to get, don’t worry. You know what they’ll say. If I wanted something in writing, Jim would attack me. If I held the cheque, they’d say I couldn’t afford it. I’d dump into depressions, Jim wouldn’t help me get out and he wouldn’t let me stay and pay more under an agreement. $700 in 2006 perhaps, then $1000 as mom needed more money. I upped the payment to $1000 knowing there’s nothing I can do but keep trying. On the other hand, I had to start enjoying life for myself. Then my sister came, right on top of my head.
229. I wonder what she’s looking up.
233. Sometimes it was, sometimes it was me.
235. Sometimes it was, sometimes it was me.
239. Yes, there was a period of $700 before it went to $1000.
244. She’s obviously getting her facts mixed up. It contradicts other statements. I haven’t given her anything under $500, since 1996 or so.
248. She’s lying. I bet you Jim told her I can’t prove it. I’ve asked the bank for microfilm, I am honest they are not. If you keep me in peace and don’t stress me out, I will tell you anything. I just hope I used the most accurate words.
254. My mother, you know… she’s always organized, I can’t understand why she’s lying unless she’s been coerced to.
256. Paying for food when my sister and her husband were there. $200 per month, they knew my deal, not allowed to know what they swindled. Then they wanted more money from me too.
258. This is a LIE. I paid $650. I know, because it was depressing, it depressed me.
260. She’s either lying on her own or been coerced.
262. Lying on her own or coerced.
264. I was paying $650. She’s lied. Even if I had the dates wrong which I know I don’t, it was something per month 350 or 400, then it went to 500, then it went to 550, then it went to 650, then 1200, then 700 briefly, then 1000. Please note, she was never missed until September 2013. They all know that. They lie.
266. I can’t confirm or deny without records. Unless the bank comes through.
268. Could be right, but I would say 2006 that happened, not 2007.
270. October of 2008??? What’s she about to say?
272. She’s lying. I was paying $1000 long before October 2008. They know records don’t go back that far. As Jim would say, he can’t prove it.
275. The last time she was paid was September of 2013.
277. Yes.
279. Yes.
281. That’s BS. She knows, trust me.
284. Yes, I did at times.
286. She’s lying.
289. She’s lying. But please remember she’s encouraged too.
292. She’s lying. “I’ll look after you, your going to get, if the others find out, I won’t screw you” Is that what you say to tenants?
295. They were Giggling in October 2015, the last time I saw my mother before the eviction was posted on my door just before my birthday.
297. Yes, arbitration, January 15th. Someone was present coaching her, I would instinctively know that to be my brother Jim.
301. I don’t understand my mother’s answer here? I am confused.
304. Yes, telephone conference.
307. Which she was likely told to state rent. She agreed many times in the past, not under bullying that it was not rent.
309. I don’t know about that, she knows better, but she can be niave.
314. She knew I expected a return for helping save her life. Don’t believe that.
317. Is that why she broke down crying that she knew she owed me?
322. You wouldn’t believe the stories on all of this. There was never a complete suite until I built it 20 years ago, paying for it even. There was never a washer and dryer until bought those ones you see. It also was never truly a suite because she would not allow it to be cut off. Her laundry used to be down there until 1995 or so, then I moved it upstairs.
325. Yes, that’s all correct. I tore out the closet I built 20 years ago.
329. My finances tanked and she said “the bank will not give her more money, she was too old”, I was on my own. That was August 2013. The Office, just needed a few things, then I was basically waiting to be given T-Bar free from work. Save money were I could. It’s just a timing thing, rather than buy something like that, wait until I can have it given to me for free. I often can with certain employers and jobs. Mom does not understand that.
331. Built by me 20 years ago as an apprentice. Mike would not help, I had to lift and screw those 5/8’s sheets on the ceiling by myself. I screamed in pain on one sheet and mom came running.
334. Cost me $2400 in 1997. Again done after work and I regretted starting it because I was sleeping on the couch. I paid for everything, mom helped find a deal on the carpet. The colors matched some prints I had.
336. Um, yes because projects do not get completed when people run out of money and become suicidal. It should be covered, but at least there’s a vapour barrier present to stop the fibres.
340. The walls just need to be assembled, easier than you all think. The slowdown is the planning. I wanted to maximize every inch of space. That’s a small bathroom and tight hallway when assembled.
343. Yes, that was temporary while it was being built. She understood that at the time. Running out of money and then becoming suicidal, how does think I’d finish it.
347. 30 years ago that was the laundry room, sink and they put the original 1969 stove down there on top of carpet. They try to claim it was kitchen complete before the renovations 20 years ago, just to devalue me. But that 1969 stove finally quit one day. I replaced it in 2006. I went through two fridges, the 1969 one quit too. Then the replacement dad I found. Then I bought this one and it’s not as good as it looks.
349. Lying. We would often go to the ReStore together looking for cabinets, flooring, all that stuff. Those cupboards were like 30 year old broken Ikea junk. Some had to be smashed to clean out a clogged sewage pipe.
353. Yes to the dump.
355. She only goes to Montana ONCE per year. Maybe she needs an escape this year?
358. The Ensuite was done with her permission. She was excited. It leaked sewage there and ruined her 20 year old linoleum. Why does she lie?
361. She’s full of it. Want proof, take the date off of my photo’s and ask her for the dates of her trip. She was home while I was working. She’d even bring me snacks.
364. The main bathroom, she knew all about it and was excited. She wanted Crown Moulding, WainScotting, the works. I missed the Wall and Ceiling Dinner and Dance to install that linoleum with her. She was happy, Jim poisons the well, Lisa jumped on that band wagon too. They all gain.
368. I think that would be normal for someone who was pushed into being suicidal and the family hid them, then took full control of the running them over afterwards.
373. Yes, no will and no pride. Broken. I used to clean regularly before my sister came. I don’t know what anyone could expect.
376. Yes, a kitchen that I built twenty years ago with broken cupboards, ants, a dead rat in the ceiling with feces, worn out sticky tiles directly on cement. I was cold.
379. It was completely finished by me 20 years ago and I told I’d be paid for that work too. However, it needed improving like her space was.
386. Why would my cat need “rescuing” other than when I was thrown in the hospital? Did PMPD even log the phone call when I phoned asking PMPD how to get my cat back? He was clawing for hours to see me, I had to feed him treats under the door. That’s abuse, stealing my pet like that. It’s unbelievable to me.
388. Is that theft? Theft of an animal? A pet? She’s never done that before? Was she prompted by Jim I wonder? Didn’t you say he spent the night at his place?
391. Complete BS. Never mind the fact of everything going on and my mental state, that cat NEVER goes without food longer than a half a day or so. If I let that food dish run dry, believe me, he lets me know. But in normal routine, I am always on it. As for the water, he’s spilling it if it’s in bowl, it’s dusty. He loves shower water, even when he has a bowl of fresh water. And yes, he drinks from the toilet too. I don’t see anything wrong with that. I don’t use chemicals.
394. Now they want to steal my cat? What I am suppose to say? There was no door, yes he’d wander up there, but he was mine.
397. Yes, the cat tolerates my sisters dog.
401. You know something they are sick.
403. Kitchen ceilings, build bathroom walls and ceilings, cupboards and flooring.
405. Like all the things that I do for work?
407. Yes, hard to do that when you are nearly bankrupt and suicidal.
409. The original appliances would be 47 years old now.
415. Well that sounds convenient.
422. She wouldn’t understand if I told her. I wanted to buy a $5000 van in January 2015 to tide me over. I looked at a few and I didn’t trust them. I was losing tools working out of a pick up in the rain. I was checking dealerships, I saw the white one, told myself no, then decided just to get it over with. However it was a mistake and I knew it. I couldn’t organize it, it hurt my back. I traded it for the black one because of the left hand doors. If I was able to set that up without worrying about cutting my hand off with my table saw, as I had to hide from my siblings, I would never have had to go in that van and it would lasted me ten years happily. I have to work with my HEALTH.
425. She came back from where? Where does claim she went? If I was home, I’d give you the date. The vans were exchanged for each other in late May. Perhaps May 29th? My oldest brother I bet you used that against me with her. Look mom, looks what he’s doing wasting all that money. (For work, to earn a living which is now completely destroyed).
428. All Summer? I couldn’t set that truck up while I was working, my siblings would come over on my free evenings when the weather was good. I’d get too unsettled to use dangerous cutting saws. For the record, that van came completely BARE. I had to talk the dealership into buying me the insides and I’d install them myself. It is a WORK TRUCK. A SERVICE TRUCK, I can go to seven jobs a day and do things they don’t comprehend.
431. Yes, cork for insulation so that my water does not freeze in the winter. The white down pipes are to hold, organize and sort material. I had to build the plywood shelves yet, it required planning. My boss loves what I was do as did every other Contractor. This is CRIMINAL to me.
436. My father said my mother does not understand. I see that too. However, my siblings I guarantee you have been stirring the pot. This is what they want.
440. If she doesn’t know what it’s about, why is she judging me on it? I bought an android radio for maps, tracking mileage and fuel for Revenue Canada, and to stay in contact with the office. I have to email them continuously. Then I needed to install a charger for my phone, I’m not like other people. I like things efficient, stable and permanent. I had to find another way to do email, the android radio doesn’t work for that. I bought tablet to stay in touch with the office, but the mount broke. Well made, but one cheap flimsy part. I’m trying to set this truck up as a mobile work station for the next ten years.
444. For one month, in August. It would have been completed however it was one thing after another. My siblings coming over, smirking and negatively commenting. That upset me and I couldn’t use my saws. I had to help a friend who was desperate for help on his house, I shouldn’t have but I did. I guess that worked because I am in his trailer living right now. Everytime I felt good, had what I needed, the weather was good, my siblings would be over. It takes time to set that up and to plan it out. We had the windstorm and I broke the saw table saw when a piece of plywood flipped.
Come September all the jobs lead I had fell through. I should have never of taken the month off like a co-worker suggested. How ever I would have never of quit my job if my family wasn’t playing games. Hiding keys to mom’s car so I can’t get the tools out. My sister telling me “it’s over”. The games with the texts. No wonder why I have been talking about killing myself.
448. She wouldn’t if I explained it. However, I am sure my siblings explained it with their motives.
450. My sister and my brother made me so sick I’d want to vomit at work. They manipulate my mother. In 2010 or so, I’d be pleading with my mother. I’d be telling her if it doesn’t stop it financially hit her. She told me I didn’t know what I was talking about. I was “off”.
453. Even my neighbour made a comment, that it was BS. That should be considered my house by my siblings. I pleaded with my mother that it was making me too sick, it had to stop. She laughed at me. My siblings had her so twisted around her finger that she laughed at me. I remember thinking, I am the hand that feeds you money which supports you. I shovel the driveway. I walked up to a neighbours John Andrews. He spent money like crazy on all kinds of junk. He’s an Elementary School Principle and a friend (when times are good). He bought a toy helicopter, and I had literally lost my mind at this point. I said to him that’s not a helicopter, lets go to the hobby shop. I didn’t know how to fly them, just helicopter after helicopter after helicopter. $300 a pop. This is why I say if I was a drinker I’d be dead. Just be happy, I’d tell myself. I remember standing on John’s driveway telling myself, that they have no idea what they just did. I get addicted easily. A new hobby, lots to learn and it kept me distracted from something I couldn’t control. Furthermore, they place me in a psychological box, devalue me, treat me juvenile when… this is what I mean by they destroyed my life. You can say I did it, but until you grew up psychologically boxed in like me, trapped, you don’t understand. They took from me all my life growing up, Jim broke my will 3 years into buying RRSP’s and doing everything I could to get on my feet. My parents needed my help and here I am at 40, completely decimated. Completely. Please do not tell me otherwise, I know my own situation.
457. Yes, to make myself feel better and to try to buy sanity, but I can’t because my finances are out of control at this point. Just on the edge. I can’t win.
459. I think the financial stress, the emotional stress, the psychological stress, the work stress, the anti depressants, everything… for me, all of this would have been avoidable if I was respected in that household. She’s promising me a return and they are coercing her for gain. I can’t get out for reasons you don’t understand. You likely take too much for granted about work. My brother Jim laughed at me four years ago, “Glad it’s not me! Haha”. Is that family?
462. Yes, she went to see a bankruptcy person with me. My sister was prompting me to commit fraud. She encouraged my mother that it was the right thing to do. When I wouldn’t do it, my mother said “Oh, I guess that means you’re not giving me money?” then carelessly “I guess I will give you nothing then”. It wasn’t worth arguing. I did bring it up again and she said “There’s nothing to talk about”. That’s were things broke down in our relationship and that’s where my brother and sister just ran me over and took full control. I did tell my mother that I needed to build a float as work can go up and down, she accepted that. By the time I was recovered with enough money in the bank to handle the ups and downs, my mother and my sister where psychologically abusing me. Sending me accusing texts when I did nothing wrong. My sister would be calling me a loser while washing her car with the pipes have paid for and installed right from the curb on the street to tap she’s pulling the water from. She called me a loser for not taking a camp job where I was sure I’d have a heart attack. I lost 40lbs just six months prior.
464. September 2013 was the Bankruptcy Trustee. The same month my mother had her last cheque from me. The same month she helped me set up an RBC account. For me it’s extortion, I either keep paying her no matter what, or she doesn’t give me anything in the end. Extortion. I even had to commit fraud.
467. October 2008
470. My fault for being too stressed in January to talk to Constable Ohashi. I found her surreal, the things she would say to me. I was open with every other Officer but her, I couldn’t comprehend what was going on.
474.
476. Who started that confrontation? Please ask yourself that. They agreed the very first night on arrival to treat it as mom’s house and mine. They agreed that if there was a problem with him, that he would go. The very next day Jim was there and my brother in law was telling me he had just as much rights as me. He could do whatever he wanted. My mother flew the coup to save herself, no concern to me, the one she’s living off of. She was even warned by a doctor that I needed peace and stability. So who did that? Was it me? I’m just trying to go to bed at 8:30, work hard, be stable, be happy and wham… they drop in on that house taking it over, wanting to renovate this, renovate that, take this room, take that room. Drink and make noise fighting past midnight, dog peeing on the floor. And it’s my fault? I have my oldest brother badgering me that I am crazy. I have a psychologist wanting me to pay him weekly. I am in debt. I am trapped, I am getting screwed. Who did that?
478. Even the neighbours made comments on my sister’s husband.
480. Why me?
482. I thought it had something to do with others threatening my home, my health, my stability, my finances, retirement, enjoyment of life, all of that kind of thing.
485. A lot of people asked me why I did not punch him out. He even asked me to.
487. He had his truck parked three foot out in the street hanging off the driveway and then he took his diesel engine apart. He couldn’t put it back together and it sat there for three weeks. Even brother Jim was scoffing at him. I felt sorry for him, but I considered this my home and he upset it the second day he arrived.
490. I don’t remember that. I do know that I am not the type of person to throw away anything new.
493. I may or may not have, I don’t know. I do know that they would destabilize the house, destroy my peace, and manipulate my mother right in front of my face.
497. She came down with two more cats after she left two there for ten years urinating and defecating all over my clothes and belongings. All over my mother’s space too. They state mom was a Cancer patient and I didn’t care. My sister would not deal with those cats, she didn’t care. I asked her repetitively. As soon as she came to live there my sister said “I’m not living with these cats, that’s gross”. Suddenly it’s important to put down the cats. Even in 2006, she was saying didn’t care about that house.
500. They were already urinating and defecating for years. Now there was five!
502. Ever drive into work arriving at 5am just to discover your work clothes are soiled in cat urine? I missed so much work. It was so defeating. So depressing on top of all the other issues.
504. Well there was a problem for years but no one cared about “Danny”.
507. Yeah, that was six years ago, I probably said you don’t need to be there.
510. Her daughter is a lying manipulating fraud who cheats and steals. I wish I could…
513. My mother flew the coup, she didn’t want to be around it. Save herself. That’s my mother.
517. And what did she do to stop it? Did she tell them I lived there and they had to respect me or did she just say “I’m not getting involved” like would be typical of her. I mean that in the way where she only cares about herself.
519. Drinking, staying up late, leaving doors open, fighting, having the dog downstairs urinating and shaking cowering next to me. There is so much. Telling me where to go, what rooms I can enter. Taking over jobs that I normally do to impress other on her return. Manipulating. Threatening me. Trying to get me to pay her $2400 vet bill. Leaving lights on prompting the neighbours to complain and blame me. Manipulating mom to go to the bank and spent money on the house when it’s really for Lisa and the baby. Ditching her baby there and wearing mom out. Mom won’t state it, but my sister was wearing my mom right out dropping that kid off as much as she could so she could go with friends. My mother used to complain and she looked very tired. Then there’s using the baby’s as manipulating tools. Why do I have to be the bad person all the time? I am completely destroyed, I don’t know how to explain that to you.
523. I lost a lot of work. It cost my company and many others money. It cost other workers money. It caused problems with Bosa. I was almost let go several times. The only reason they didn’t was because they knew me as a good guy who was very good at his job. I wasn’t fired because they liked me, but it wore everyone out around me. It even taxed friendships. I could no longer date women. Just ruined the little I had to make the best of enjoying life.
525. Yes, when you work hard you need sleep, especially when everything revolves a schedule. Even the doctor warned my mother about that.
529. Even worse with medication.
532. Right, if anyone’s life was driven off the rails repeatedly, they’d be the same. You block it out for sanity, but it creeps right back and you can’t ignore it.
535. March 22nd, 2005 is when he passed away.
540. Is my mother mentally stable? She has my fathers date wrong. Maybe she’s tired at this point.
542. I think 2006 is correct for my sisters wedding. Her dad called me a cop. He was a prick.
544. No, the cancer was 2006 but maybe it was after the wedding.
547. These are lies. I never said papers. When she had cancer, I did resent her when I was alone. In the hospital, this is terrible, but I did plead with her that she had to do something for me. She nodded her head like she knew. I never brought papers and I never used that word. You have to remember, that Jim will exploit every little bit and devalue me.
549. Why is she confused? Is she just tired or is her health gone?
551. No, that not true. I never did that with her gallbladder. They are lying.
553. Long ordeal, but no mention of my sister dumping the baby off on her wearing her right out afterwards. Just me right?
560. Actually to be totally honest, my mental health degraded the moment I came off RRSP’s to buy my own place while I was sucked into this house. That’s where it actually degraded. I knew if I ever came off of that I was finished in what I needed for a happy life. Rod Schwan put a lot of effort into fixing me and I put a lot of effort into being fixed, but in that household without… I am just devalued and put in a box for everyone’s gain.
563. Even my sister used to say Brian Carlson is terrible. When I sat with him in November, he said I should have never of been on that medication for that length of time. Furthermore, I should have neve of had him as a doctor because it gives Jim an inside scoop to influence. I had to take a good look in his eyes, November 2015 and decide. I liked the person I saw when I did that so… I’ll never find another doctor anyways.
566. If she’s referring to the email the police have included about Colin’s boat, that was written out of frustration.
Do not let my mother fool you. I was suicidal for six months, I lost 40lbs. They all knew. I put $5500-6000 above my mothers sewing machine to pay for my own funeral. She said she’s not touching that money. I walked her through the basement as I tried to prepare her for when I was gone. I tried fixing things better, but I found I was only making them worse. I wasn’t in a good state of mind so I stopped. The funny thing was, that door locking the downstairs from the upstairs, I turned the knob around so the upstairs would inaccessible from the basement. I told myself that if I don’t kill myself, this doorknob being turned around will bite me in the rear one day.
569. I wanted to blow my brains out at least twenty if not more. Just like many others I have spoken to in similar situations. The largest, most serious suicidal degradation was the Winter of 2013/2014 when they complained of getting in trouble if they hid me. They drove me to that, but they seemed to care more for themselves and getting in trouble than if I actually did it. There was some pretty surreal moments.
571. Don’t know what that is.
577. My doctor confirmed to me that my family went to my GP, Dr. Brian Carlson and talked to him about me being suicidal.
581. Well, that is the woman who my life dangles with. You don’t have to understand this, but I literally staked my life on her and that house. I wish I had time to write everything out. I bet you my siblings pushed her to go, too chicken themselves.
585. I never wrote a threatening letter to commit suicide, they are either lying, committing fraud or mixing up the letter about drilling holes in Colin’s boat. At that point I was only letting out my feelings, my frustration with everything in my life. All the damage.
589. That’s not the story I know, but maybe she did bring the boat letter to my Physician, I don’t know. There was no letter exclusively stating or threatening that I’d commit suicide. I can give you that fact.
591. What is she talking about? She’s either confused or spinning a story. The LEGO was sold to pay bills when I was off work and to fund the RC hobby which, I honestly never wanted to do. It was means of being happy before my life completely imploded. I think this, what’s happening right now was going to come at some point. You just can’t get what you need when everyone keeps taking.
595. This is 2005, when my brother told me to pack my $@#% and get out. When he was manipulating mother and using my computer and my internet to find her a place near him. She ran to me crying that she knew she owed me and that she needed every penny for herself.
601. Yes, I went and took my belongings back from Jim. I’ve likely never been to his place since.
604. Medication that perhaps I should have never of been on.
607. If I missed a pill, it would mess me up, but not like they think or would know. It would throw me out of whack. I think they are exaggerating and character building to defend themselves.
613. I only talked about medication with my sister. However, all any of them had to do was to go into my bathroom and look. Jim always threatened he could go through my space anytime he wanted.
615. I asked people what they thought. As soon as I asked, like Mother’s friend Roxy I get a reply that upset me. She said “well now you know what your problem is”. That immediately upset me, but I didn’t say anything. What I wanted to do what shout, no… my problem is my family.
617. Dr. Owen James, 2003 to 2011. My mother had visited him several times. His idea to make it an inheritance and to not put me on title. She admitted to him that she not have this house if it was not for me.
620. Yes, to counsel the household.
625. Yes.
629. Everyone was gone long before dad passed away. She must be coerced into talking like this.
633. Yes, because they did. And they left laughing and taking. Then they rubbed their hands at me.635. Yes, that makes me to cry, yes I was.
640. Likely because my siblings coerced her too. Just as they coerced her to kick me out after they destroyed me. Moving took lots of planning and time if I was to do it successfully, but why should I have to move again?
644. Jim and Lisa, most likely Jim is prompting her to think that way. It is Jim that is the main driver to all of that, he drove everything into the ground for me. Greed.
648. Lived with me for 40 years and doesn’t know? Come on mother, she knows.
653. She’s lying. She’s concerned about her blood pressure that is all. She doesn’t need that and neither do I. She is not physically scared of me. She’ll stand in the same room, I am the one that hides from her!
658. She’s killing me simply because I am useless to her as I haven’t paid because I didn’t go bankrupt and commit fraud for her.
662. Actually, she just did the worst thing for me and now I can’t work, I am pennyless and I do not have a roof over my head. How do I deserve this?
670. No, I will not allow myself to have a gun. I only entertained the idea because it would have been easier than dealing with all of this. Without a proper home, I have nothing.
673. Actually she knows little about my life because she devalues everything about it.
675. That is so unjust. She takes from me, everything, and then just discards me.
< p>678. She only helps herself.680. No firearms in the house that I am aware of. There may be a pellet gun under the stairs.
In the Summer, Jim was marching into the house with Lisa, he’s spend all that money on that truck what an idiot. That’s a work truck, a service truck, a mobile office as well. I can go to seven jobs per day. These other outside people, my siblings caused ALL of this. My mother and worked well together when no one else would help and times were tough.